Breakups can be really hard, especially when cheating is involved. But for one woman, her situation took an even worse turn. She shared her story online, hoping for advice on what to do next. Feeling lost and unsure, she reached out to others for help in making sense of the painful mess her relationship had become.
He cheated on me with my best friend.
My boyfriend broke up with me because he had feelings for my best friend Ana. We hung out a lot and they said they had feelings for one another. They admitted that Josh had been cheating on me. They made a fool out of me. They made me think that everything was okay when it was really not.
If they admitted it at that time, I would have tried to be understanding and tried to support them, but they chose to lie. So I cut them both off. I focused on school and found a job with a good income. They tried reaching out to me saying that they wanted to be friends but I blocked them.
I moved on with my life.
Now, I’m living in the town next to our hometown. I got a wonderful job opportunity, so I moved, but I liked that I was still close enough to visit my parents and other relatives. About a month ago, I heard about their wedding from a common friend. It didn’t bother me anymore, so I just went on with my life.
They suddenly reached out to me.
A week ago, I got a message from Ana, telling me that they’d like me to be a part of the wedding party. I replied, “Congratulations. No, thank you.” I had no feelings for Josh anymore and I’m even seeing someone else, but I don’t want to celebrate the wedding of two people who betrayed me.
They were insistent. Josh also messaged me via a different number. Some of my friends also tried to convince me to come to the wedding. I firmly said no. Even my mom called me asking if I was going and when I said no, she sounded disappointed but she didn’t push it. This is all just quite weird to me. Why would you want your ex-best friend, the girl you cheated on, to be part of your wedding party?
It’s getting worse.
The day before yesterday, Ana’s parents called me, telling me that they missed me and hoped I could go to the wedding. I said that I would not be going. Her mom berated me, saying that I should let bygones be bygones and that I should be happy for her daughter. I asked her if I cheated on Ana’s boyfriend and then invited her to the wedding, would she convince Ana to go? She had no answer to this and I hung up.
This is quite getting out of hand because I’m receiving more than 20-30 calls and texts a day from their friends and family about this wedding. Any advice on how to handle this? Why do they want me to go to their wedding? I don’t think it’s normal that they are very insistent.
People expressed their support.
They are trying to minimize the impact it had on you all the while they are telling everyone else they don’t regret how they came about. Two of your closest loved ones, at the time, hurt you and can’t wrap around their heads that their happiness means bad to you. © theokayfellow / Reddit
They want you at the wedding so that they can stop feeling guilty about being the lying cheaters that they are. If you are at their wedding, that means you forgive them and that means everyone will know that they aren’t terrible people. If you’re so inclined, post something on social media about how they cheated with each other and how they are now harassing you and have people harassing you on their behalf. Make it clear that they are in fact, terrible people.
And some even gave a kind of fun advices.
I’d send a card to each of them individually, along with a bunch of wilted black roses, for their black and dying hearts. ‘Wishing you all the best, Ana, for when Josh cheats on you with someone new, because you know that cheaters gonna cheat!’ And vice versa for him. © jazzyjane19 / Reddit
I would go full rom-com then and show up plastered with an escort as a plus one and give an absurd and rambling speech about friendship and loyalty, then finish mid-sentence by throwing up and passing out. © Ordinary_Fold_4677 / Reddit
Cheating is always painful, but sometimes the problems it causes are even worse. It’s not just the betrayal — it can lead to trust issues, broken families, and deep emotional scars. In some cases, it can even ruin a wedding or destroy a marriage, leaving lives shattered and relationships beyond repair. The damage from cheating often lasts long after the moment of betrayal.